Hard Does Not Equal Bad

Earlier this week I heard a couple speak at a fundraising luncheon for work. The wife, Rachel, said something that my weary and tired heart needed to hear. “Hard does not equal bad. Hard just equals hard.” Life right now is hard and intense. It is not bad, just hard. As I think about the season I am in and how hard it can be some days to put one foot in front of the other I realize that it is not bad, it is however hard. Today as I sat in the library working on school work there was a brief moment I let my mind wander from my studying and I thought “life was so much easier when…” and then I stopped myself. I was starting to wish this season away and dream of how life will be easier when I am through it. Things are hard, I am busier than I realize at times. But it’s not all bad. School is hard but it is good. I desire and need to finish my bachelors’ degree. Work is hard, but it is good. I see tremendous growth in my job. Spending time with my family is good but it is hard to find time to really engage with them on a consistent basis. Spending time with my friends is hard to do with all I have going on. But it is not bad. I am thankful for the friends I have. They are understanding and gracious in this season of my life. They see it is hard but they know it’s not bad.

It seems the grass is always greener on the other side but it’s not true. The grass is green on this side; it’s just taking a bit longer to grow. This season of hard has at times been painful but it hasn’t been bad. I have seen tremendous growth in many areas of my life. And while I see the growth, that doesn’t mean I enjoy it or am thankful for it everyday. I wish I could say that I am happy and excited each day in this season of life. There are days I want to hide some where alone, with no responsibilities and just be.

But, each day I get up and put one foot in front of the other. I do the next right thing. Yes, I am tired on a daily basis. Yes, I want to give up every responsibility that I have and walk away. That’s easy. I would like to take the easy route. But that isn’t living life to the fullest or how God intended for me to live. Life is hard and messy and that is okay. I continually lean on two verses out of Proverbs that point me in the direction of trusting God through the hard times. Proverbs 3:5,6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” (ESV)

If you are going through a hard season in life right now remember Rachel’s words “Hard does not equal bad. Hard just equals hard.”


  1. Cheri says

    Becky that was well said. We miss you and will continue to lift you up on our prayers. You are an amazing young woman.BTW we have a letter that came for you .I’ve been so busy (dealing with hard) that I havent gotten it over to you……Cheri

  2. Maurice Bernier says

    EXCELLENT blog! It is a true lesson to others. This is really a speech written for a valedictorian. I like it. It sends out a very positive message. I used to speak on a similar lines when it came to studying and working hard in school. I had to explain the difference between the words DIFFICULT and IMPOSSIBLE. So many use the words interchangeably. They do not mean the same thing. IMPOSSIBLE starts with IM- which is a prefix for the word “not.” You cannot do anything that is NOT possible to do in the first place. Shaking hands with George Washington, our first POTUS, is not possible. Flapping our arms and trying to fly around the city like an eagle is also impossible. Studying hard and doing well in school IS possible. It just may be DIFFICULT, but it can be done. One needs to apply himself or herself in order to get the job done. Your blog is pure inspiration. EXCELLENT job, Becky. 🙂

  3. David Lanzer says

    Absolutely true. I heard the speech live AND think the way you “unpacked” it applies to myself even more now than when I heard it Tuesday. NOW, consider the opposite, as I am doing as I read your blog… EASY does not equal GOOD in many situations, even though that’s the way we’d prefer things… I apply this to owning a business run for the Glory of Jesus. What’s EASIER to do does not always honor Him or follow His teachings. It’ll twist your thoughts into knots…

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