Earlier this week I heard a couple speak at a fundraising luncheon for work. The wife, Rachel, said something that my weary and tired heart needed to hear. “Hard does not equal bad. Hard just equals hard.” Life right now is hard and intense. It is not bad, just hard. As I think about the season I am in and how hard it can be some days to put one foot in front of the other I realize that it is not bad, it is however hard. Today as I sat in the library working on school work there was a brief moment I let my mind wander from my studying and I thought “life was so much easier when…” and then I stopped myself. I was starting to wish this season away and dream of how life will be easier when I am through it. Things are hard, I am busier than I realize at times. But it’s not all bad. School is hard but it is good. I desire and need to finish my bachelors’ degree. Work is hard, but it is good. I see tremendous growth in my job. Spending time with my family is good but it is hard to find time to really engage with them on a consistent basis. Spending time with my friends is hard to do with all I have going on. But it is not bad. I am thankful for the friends I have. They are understanding and gracious in this season of my life. They see it is hard but they know it’s not bad.
It seems the grass is always greener on the other side but it’s not true. The grass is green on this side; it’s just taking a bit longer to grow. This season of hard has at times been painful but it hasn’t been bad. I have seen tremendous growth in many areas of my life. And while I see the growth, that doesn’t mean I enjoy it or am thankful for it everyday. I wish I could say that I am happy and excited each day in this season of life. There are days I want to hide some where alone, with no responsibilities and just be.
But, each day I get up and put one foot in front of the other. I do the next right thing. Yes, I am tired on a daily basis. Yes, I want to give up every responsibility that I have and walk away. That’s easy. I would like to take the easy route. But that isn’t living life to the fullest or how God intended for me to live. Life is hard and messy and that is okay. I continually lean on two verses out of Proverbs that point me in the direction of trusting God through the hard times. Proverbs 3:5,6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” (ESV)
If you are going through a hard season in life right now remember Rachel’s words “Hard does not equal bad. Hard just equals hard.”